Adult Children of Alcoholics Welcome to ACA. Adult Children of Alcoholics is an anonymous Twelve Step program of women and men who grew up in an alcoholic or otherwise dysfunctional homes. We meet with each other in a mutually respectful, safe environment and acknowledge our common experiences. We discover how childhood affected us in the past and influences us in the present. We take positive action.
Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents A discussion group on Yahoo. The group is restricted and self moderated. It is "intended to be a nurturing place for learning, validation, and thoughtful discussion."
Estranged From My Parents Dr. Joshua Coleman's forum for adult children estranged from their parents. Coleman is a speaker, psychologist and author of When Parents Hurt and other books.
Parents Who Walk Away A group for parents of estranged adult children who are tired of waiting for them to grow up/get real. Comprised of strong, wise survivors, this group is made up of parents who either have walked away or are considering walking away from the disrespectful actions of their abusive adult children. Straight talk, tough stances and the free exchange of ideas/opinions can be found here. Everyone is Welcome! (Note: This is the new link to PWWA which formerly was hosted on Daily Strength.)
H. E. R. Groups HEALING ESTRANGED RELATIONSHIPS, INC. (H.E.R. Group) was created for women who are experiencing an estranged relationship from an adult child. Our purpose is to provide each woman with a safe environment in which to share what is in her heart; and to be a place where hope, encouragement, support and resources will enable healing in her life.
Estranged Stories A place principally for parents experiencing family estrangement to find support, hopefully peace, and some understanding. Currently has over 5,000 members.
Christian Parents of Estranged Adult Children Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith. (Note: This group is the same one that had been hosted on the Daily Strength site. When DS made its recent changes, this group and others moved off of DS. This link will take you to the current location of the group.)
Support Groups for All
Al anon A Twelve Step group that offers strength and hope for friends and families of problem drinkers. There is likely a meeting near you. Learning the Twelve Steps and following them can make a great deal of difference in your life, no matter whether the issue is with someone who has a drinking problem or some other serious problem that affects them and everyone around them.
BPD Central BPD Central Randi Kreger, author, advocate, and owner of BPDCentral.com, established Welcome to Oz in 1996 to enable family members with a borderline or narcissistic loved one to support each other and share tips and techniques.
Co-Dependents Anonymous Welcome to Co-Dependents Anonymous, a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. CODA is based on the Twelve Step program. It is much more broad based than Al anon.
Out of the Fog Forum Out of the FOG was launched on November 1 2007 to provide information and support to the family members and loved-ones of individuals who suffer from a personality disorder. FOG stands for Fear, Obligation and Guilt.
Frank Warren, June 17, at the Reading Public Museum
I had the great pleasure of meeting and photographing Frank Warren of Postsecret when he came to the Reading Public Museum in Reading, PA on Saturday, June 17, for the opening day of an exhibit of a selection of the Postsecret postcards. The exhibit will run until October 8 and he will be back at the museum in the fall for a book signing.
I was fascinated by seeing the actual postcards. The real life sizes and the handmade nature. Being able to see both sides of some. The creativity in deciding how to express each secret. A few of the secrets made me shudder.
The exhibit was mentioned briefly on the Postsecret website. I don't know why it isn't mentioned there now but it is mentioned on the Reading Public Museum site. So if you're in Pennsylvania in the vicinity of Reading, you might want to visit. The other exhibits where the postcards have been shown were in the Alexandria, Virginia area.
For a change of mood go here: Dialectizer's Redneck version of the online article, Gift for my Daughter by Harry Browne, and press the Dialectize button. Try the Cockney version and the Jive version and the Elmer Fudd version .... And then whatever other url or text you'd like to try the Dialectizer on.
After asking yourself the question in the previous series of images about how you feel about a woman in differing circumstances of estrangement, the question of the day is: How do you feel about this man? Click on the image to access the image gallery. These images won't change every ten seconds as in the slide show. You need to click on each image to see each one. Ask yourself if there are differences in how you feel.
Here is another way to view the images that are in the previous 11 posts. Click on the image below and a slide show of 17 images will begin. Every ten seconds the caption will change. I have added 6 more captions to include other relationships. This series of images and text were inspired by an artwork with changing titles that I saw in an art exhibit to help the viewer identify stereotypes that they carried regarding race.
A couple of years ago I saw a small artwork that incorporated technology into it to illustrate a concept relating to race. It was very clever and made a good point. I've been thinking about it because it occurred to me to try something similar to make some points about estrangements and the personal baggage that we each carry. I haven't yet figured out how to design it but if I give it some concentrated attention, I am sure I can come up with an interesting little exercise/demonstration for posting here. It might involve a sequence of posts that are meant to be viewed as a "package" of posts. Or it might be one post. I don't know yet. Stay tuned.
So still thinking. I've had some other things to do too. Life is like that. Busy. But I'm still here.
My Johnnie Cash question was based on the idea of offering up food for thought. Questions that I ask might have little relevance to some readers and more relevance to others. The questions are meant for anyone who has experienced estrangement and gives it more than a passing thought. Just stuff to think about. Like homework! But voluntary homework. No grades. No classes. No rules. Just stuff to think on.
PS. Note added later: Click on the category "Creative Expressions" for the posts that resulted from my thinking.
The Proper Use of Terms When Speaking of Estrangements and Relatives
By Tung Incheeky
The one on whom all is blamed. Convenient persons without which no estrangement would be complete.
If one is not immediately available, choose whichever relative has a history of being nice. Keep this in mind when choosing your own scapegoat.
If the person has a history of trying not to swear when abused and loves to make people happy, such a person will make an ideal scapegoat. That makes it fun because nice people are loathe to defend themselves in a truly nasty manner .... until enough years go by when they get fed up with the role. When this occurs, the previously nice person may become less nice and it may be wise to choose a different scapegoat.
While some people may not know the meaning of specific words in the English language, the Prince(ss)es of the world do not know the meaning of and are unable to speak certain entire sentences. Hoping to hear a Prince(ss) say these sentences is futile. A Prince(ss) cannot understand the sentences below and it is impossible for a Prince(ss) to be able to say them to the person whom they have estranged themselves from and whom they talk about in a contemptuous and scornful manner:
This coming Thursday is Thanksgiving Day. This will be the first Thanksgiving since 1995 that I can say that I am thankful for the estrangements in my life as well as for so many other things of a more traditional nature like health, friends, a loving husband and a roof over my head.
Reading the list below of the
Princess and the Pea's Fifteen Rules of Conduct makes me realize once again how foolish I have been to be missing the Princess for all of these years when I might have felt thankfulness instead. Lately I have been angry at myself for missing the Princess after learning that she does not love me or care about me and hasn't for many years.
Who qualifies as a Prince or Princess?
Not only sons and daughters are candidates for the title of Prince and Princess. Mothers and fathers, aunts and uncles, cousins, friends ... anyone can act like a Prince or a Princess.
Do you remember the children's story about the Princess and the Pea? The Princess was the girl who was made so uncomfortable by the presence of a Pea under her mattress that she needed many many mattresses laid one on top of the other before she was able to sleep. This was the test of a True Princess. It was only a True Princess who could discern the presence of the Pea through multiple mattresses. Commoners would be able to sleep without feeling the Pea.