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Going back to 1965, a history: Part 1 of 4

Part 1 of 4: The good bad old days ...

Generally I stay away from discussing the estrangements between former lovers in my blog. People break up all the time and the breakups often result in estrangement. We are not surprised when the ties between people not related by blood break. Often the formerly passionate lovers decide that their previous partner is not worth the time of day. But people related by blood, their relationships tend to withstand all kinds of annoyances, quirks, weirdnesses, bad behavior, and abuse much more so than the relationships which began as a romance or a friendship. I haven't seen any studies on this but that is my observation of folk in general.

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"The Art of Grieving", a Workshop, Sept. 9, 2006

"The Art of Grieving Workshop" is being offered on Saturday, September 9, 2006, at the Caron Recovery Center, 244 E. 58th St., NY, NY from 9:30 AM to 4 PM. The cost is $80 per person. For more information, call: 1-800-678-2332 Ext. 6288

I received information in the mail about a number of workshops offered by the Caron organization. In 1988 I took an Adult Children of Alcoholics Workshop given by Caron. I thought it was very worthwhile. I have read of Grief Workshops given by other organizations. This is the first one I had read of that is being offered by Caron.


Change in approach to writing posts

If you've been following this blog for a while, you've noticed that since February I have changed the way that I've been posting. I am not writing posts that are as personal as I posted previously.

I can't be specific about why I changed the way that I write posts. I will say that I did arrive at some conclusions, gave them some thought, and decided to hold back on writing as much of what I think and feel as I had in the past. For a while anyway. Because of information that I learned, I made a conclusion. Because of that conclusion I decided that writing so openly would not be productive.

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May 26, 2006: Estrangement in the News

  1. From gayalliance.org: Point Foundation grants scholarships to 30 LGBT students
  2. From the ObservorGuardian, UK: 'I'd have stopped my son killing'
  3. An utterly mazing story! From Mirror.Co.UK: DRIBBLING RIVALRY: EXCLUSIVE HOW BROTHERS' BITTER FEUD LAUNCHED WORLD CUP'S RIVAL FOOTBALL BOOT GIANTS By Nick Webster
  4. From DoghouseBoxing: Rocky 6 Movie Update (Note: The movie seems to have taken a page from the Clint Eastwood movie: Million Dollar Baby in incorporating familial estrangement.)
  5. From ChristianityToday: Confessions of a Compulsive Eater: When the urge for food becomes overwhelming By Cynthia S.

Postsecret's Mothers' Day/Week Secrets

If you've never visited Postsecret, it is a blog which posts the secrets sent in on homemade postcards online every Sunday. There is also a book of Postsecrets and there have been a few art exhibits of some of the cards. This week's offering of cards on Postsecrets is on the theme of motherhood. Some are VERY sad, some lovely, some painful. If you want to see the Mothers' Day offering, visit the site before Sunday, May 21, because then it will change and the postsecrets on mothers will be replaced by another group of postsecrets.

Ginny


May 15: Estrangement in the News

Unclaimed Corpses Crowd LA County Morgue

"One of the things we've always tried to do is give families back a body," Harvey said, adding that some bodies have been at the morgue for nine months. "But when we're looking for families, we find that today we're not always dealing with the Ozzie-and-Harriet close-knit families. Families are often estranged."


Mother's Day - Thoughts & Feelings

I feel like the thousand pound gorilla is in the room. The gorilla called "Mother's Day"!

Twelve years ago my thoughts on Mother's Day were along the lines of not wanting to make the day be all about me or to make Robin or anyone feel obligated to make the day a big one or make Robin or anyone feel guilt or anything negative about that day. Prior to her father and I separating in 1984 Mother's Day was usually about my MIL who expected to be taken out to dinner. No one questioned that. It was just done. I would buy my mother a present and make time to see her or at least call.

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More Links For Parents

  1.  A Gift for my Daughter By Harry Browne, a Libertarian Party candidate in years past.
  2. Daughter Therapy Interesting online article on unexpected results of therapy.  
  3. When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us: Letting Go of Their Problems, ... Book by Jane Adams
  4. Articles on Recovery from Grief Written by co-authors of The Grief Recovery Handbook 

Roseanne Barr

Roseanne was reconciled with her family in 2004.
On imdb.com: Biography of Roseanne
On VanityFair.com, multiple page article: God and Man in Beverly Hills by Evgenia Peretz

Quote from page 2 of the Vanity Fair article:

After a few years of hard work with Yardeni, Barr became kind of … decent. "All my relationships and everything were pretty well damaged by my bad behavior," says Barr. "I was able to turn around and heal because of the fact that I could find a quiet space inside my mind and get rid of my fear and feel love… . I had an estranged family—we didn't speak for 15 years. Now I have a wonderful relationship with my mother and my siblings and with my children and with everyone that I have relationships with. I don't get high off getting angry anymore."


May 2: Estrangements in the News

  1. Kit Culkin: The Official Website Father of Macauley Culkin. Estranged from his children. Site includes blog and forum. To read complete entries, pdf downloads are available.
  2. EOnline: Lindsay Lohan Disses Dad by Josh Grossberg Mar 3, 2005
  3. Halle Berry: On anecdotage.com
  4. Alicia Keys mends fragile relationship with estranged father On femalefirst.co
  5. On DuluthNewsTribune.com: Wisconsin Editorials: DAILY JEFFERSON COUNTY UNION, Fort Atkinson. May 1, 2006 On the conviction of Derek Anderson for the murder of his estranged father.
  6. On Entertainmentwise.com: "Angelina Jolie Is A 'Messed Up Chick' No More. Good for her..." By: Lowri Williams on 4/27/2006
  7. On NashuaTelegraph.com: ID theft victim’s dream finally taking flight By ASHLEY SMITH, Telegraph Staff Published: Tuesday, Apr. 25, 2006. Son is victim of identity theft perpetrated by his estranged father.